Discover Your Love Language: Take the Quiz!

The Five Love Languages Test

by Dr. Gary Chapman

Grab a sheet of paper and create column with A, B, C, D, E and put a tick mark next to each letter corresponding to your answer below.

Or print off and read each pair of statements and circle the one that best describes you.

1. A. I like to receive notes of affirmation from you. E. I like it when you hug me.

2. B. I like to spend one‐on‐one time with you. D. I feel loved when you give me practical help.

3. C. I like it when you give me gifts. B. I like taking long walks with you.

4. D. I feel loved when you do things to help me. E. I feel loved when you hug or touch me.

5. E. I feel loved when you hold me in your arms. C. I feel loved when I receive a gift from you.

6. B. I like to go places with you. E. I like to hold hands with you.

7. A. I feel loved when you acknowledge me. C. Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me.

8. E. I like to sit close to you. A. I like it when you tell me that I am attractive.

9. B. I like to spend time with you. C. I like to receive little gifts from you.

10. D. I know you love me when you help me. A. Your words of acceptance are important to me.

11. B. I like to be together when we do things. A. I like the kind words you say to me.

12. E. I feel whole when we hug. D. What you do affects me more than what you say.

13. A. I value your praise and try to avoid your criticism. C. Several inexpensive gifts mean more to me than one large expensive gift.

14. E. I feel closer to you when you touch me. B. I feel close when we are talking or doing something together.

15. A. I like you to compliment my achievements. D. I know you love me when you do things for me that you don’t enjoy doing.

16. E. I like for you to touch me when you walk by. B. I like when you listen to me sympathetically.

17. C. I really enjoy receiving gifts from you. D. I feel loved when you help me with my home projects. 18. A. I like when you compliment my appearance. B. I feel loved when you take the time to understand my feelings.

19. E. I feel secure when you are touching me. D. Your acts of service make me feel loved.

20. D. I appreciate the many things you do for me. C. I like receiving gifts that you make.

21. B. I really enjoy the feeling I get when you give me your undivided attention. D. I really enjoy the feeling I get when you do some act of service for me.

22. C. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with a gift. A. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with meaningful words (written or spoken.)

23. D. I feel loved when you help me out with my chores. C. I know you are thinking of me when you give me a gift.

24. C. I appreciate it when you remember special days with a gift. B. I appreciate it when you listen patiently and don’t interrupt me.

25. B. I enjoy extended trips with you. D. I like to know that you are concerned enough to help me with my daily task.

26. E. Kissing me unexpectedly makes me feel loved. C. Giving me a gift for no occasion makes me feel loved.

27. A. I like to be told that you appreciate me. B. I like for you to look at me when we are talking.

28. C. Your gifts are always special to me. E. I feel loved when you kiss me.

29. A. I feel loved when you tell me how much you appreciate me. D. I feel loved when you enthusiastically do a task I have requested.

30. E. I need to be hugged by you every day. A. I need your words of affirmation daily.

Add Total Number of Answers:

A. ____ Words of Affirmation B. ____ Quality Time C. ____Receiving Gifts

D. ____ Acts of Service E. ____Physical Touch

What are the 5 love languages?

The five love languages are five different ways of expressing and receiving love: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Not everyone communicates love in the same way, and likewise, people have different ways they prefer to receive love. The concept of love languages was developed by Gary Chapman, Ph.D., in his book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, where he describes these five unique styles of communicating love, categories he distilled from his experience in marriage counseling and linguistics.

Here's an overview of each of the five love languages Chapman describes:

1. Words of affirmation

People with words of affirmation as a love language value verbal acknowledgments of affection, including frequent "I love you's," compliments, words of appreciation, verbal encouragement, and often frequent digital communication like texting and social media engagement.

2. Quality time

People whose love language is quality time feel the most adored when their partner actively wants to spend time with them and is always down to hang out. They particularly love when active listening, eye contact, and full presence are prioritized hallmarks in the relationship.

3. Acts of services

If your love language is acts of service, you value when your partner goes out of their way to make your life easier. It's things like bringing you soup when you're sick, making your coffee for you in the morning, or picking up your dry cleaning for you when you've had a busy day at work.

4. Gifts

Gifts is a pretty straightforward love language: You feel loved when people give you "visual symbols of love," as Chapman calls it. It's not about the monetary value but the symbolic thought behind the item. People with this style recognize and value the gift-giving process: the careful reflection, the deliberate choosing of the object to represent the relationship, and the emotional benefits from receiving the present.

5. Physical touch

People with physical touch as their love language feel loved when they receive physical signs of affection, including kissing, holding hands, cuddling on the couch, and sex. Physical intimacy and touch can be incredibly affirming and serve as a powerful emotional connector for people with this love language. The roots go back to our childhood, Motamedi notes, some people only felt deep affection and love by their parents when they were held, kissed, or touched.

What’s Your Love Language?